Syndrome, or Just Symantics
When we think about spouse abuse, it usually boils down to one simple dynamic: men hit women, period. Domestic violence does not always fit into such a neat package. Pat, who spoke about being victimized, is a man. Chris, his forty year old wife is a husband batterer. Pat, whose nose was broken by a skate board, was held by police for four days because he pushed his wife in self-defense. He was released when she dropped the charges.
According to Armon A. Brott in an editorial to The Washington Post, “women are victims to more than six million cases of familial abuse each year in America.
David Gremillion, an MD, and professor at the University of North Carolina at Raleigh says, “In many ways both partners are violent”. “Women strike the first blow with the same frequency as men at every level of severity”. According to a 1985 survey, “even according to women, men are the ones likely to be assaulted by their partners”. There are several major studies that show women initiate one quarter of all domestic assaults, men initiate another quarter, and the rest of the time the violence is mutual. When it comes to domestic violence, society seems to have one set of rules for men and another for women”. Putting the semantics of battering aside, and bringing to front the problem of spouse abuse in general, we come to understand that familial violence is neither just a female nor just a male issue; it is a human issue.