Bringing your husband to repentance...

In the spirit of confidentiality, I will not allow anyone's name to be brought to the context of anything I write. That said...Someone emailed me with a solution suggested by her pastor. It was a wise counsel within the context of religious pathways. The lead was for her to: "Take all the steps necessary to bring (her) husband to repentance."

My suggestion is to take a good look as to where you are within the cycle of violence and make decisions based on you and your family's safety. If you decide that it is all right to show your mate the error of his/her ways and they chose the repentance path, more power to the both of you. Sometimes communication does work if significant others find a common ground of mediation. Learning to communicate is a process within itself. Without both parties willing to take part in that process, it could lead to further deterioration of the relationship.

My suggestion is for you to see where the relationship may go if you confront your partner with the reality of his, or her behavior. I agree that if a relationship can be saved, it should. On the other hand, if you try to "Beat A Dead Horse", you may be the horse.